I hadn't seen this one either. And, yeah... kind of fucked up.
The thing is, I would totally be the person that in a small (or smallish) group of friends, would be totally comfortable letting other people touched (though I might touch back). I like the idea of removing the OH MY GOD TOUCHING HOW SHOCKING. I do tend to be very open with friends.
BUT. There's a difference between being open (often to the point of inciting shit) among those I choose to let in and being objectified in general. I'm not really a yeller or smacker, though. I more fight back by objectifying and/or grossing out in return (ex: "you're pretty cute. i'm trying to decide what would be hotter: reaming you from behind or watching some other guy do it.")
Some of his later explanation also touched on something else. Apparently it was mostly touching other girls. And I am a girl. Who likes to touch other girls. This came up last night, so it's kind of on my mind, but I am very torn over the girl-on-girl thing. I guess because I am the kind of non-threatening attractive (enough) girl guys like to think about when they think about lesbians and bisexual women. I have a boyfriend but I'm very attracted to girls.
But... the idea of girls who kiss other girls as a way of titillating guys really puts me off. I don't like that I can pass as heterosexual and wuss out of being honest with people if I want (when others have to deal with the shit that comes with being open). I don't quite know where this is going, except some poorly worded statement about wanting openness without objectification.
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Date: 2008-04-24 10:51 pm (UTC)The thing is, I would totally be the person that in a small (or smallish) group of friends, would be totally comfortable letting other people touched (though I might touch back). I like the idea of removing the OH MY GOD TOUCHING HOW SHOCKING. I do tend to be very open with friends.
BUT. There's a difference between being open (often to the point of inciting shit) among those I choose to let in and being objectified in general. I'm not really a yeller or smacker, though. I more fight back by objectifying and/or grossing out in return (ex: "you're pretty cute. i'm trying to decide what would be hotter: reaming you from behind or watching some other guy do it.")
Some of his later explanation also touched on something else. Apparently it was mostly touching other girls. And I am a girl. Who likes to touch other girls. This came up last night, so it's kind of on my mind, but I am very torn over the girl-on-girl thing. I guess because I am the kind of non-threatening attractive (enough) girl guys like to think about when they think about lesbians and bisexual women. I have a boyfriend but I'm very attracted to girls.
But... the idea of girls who kiss other girls as a way of titillating guys really puts me off. I don't like that I can pass as heterosexual and wuss out of being honest with people if I want (when others have to deal with the shit that comes with being open). I don't quite know where this is going, except some poorly worded statement about wanting openness without objectification.